a guide to byu9:20:00 AM
- If you don’t like sports, don’t buy a ROC pass. Seriously. They are so expensive and I am not very into sports and I have not and never will buy one again since my freshman year. Half the time you can borrow someone’s anyways. If you like sports, then go for it. Ya girl just doesn’t have that kind of money.
- The MOA Café is this amazing golden secret on campus. I’m kind of reluctant to even write about it, because the less people that know about it, the better. It’s basically my substitute Panera right on campus. Unfortunately, it’s only open for lunch during the week and now (!!!!) Friday nights.
- You probably aren’t going to get asked on dates. Okay, that’s not really true, but I had this huge expectation that I would come to BYU and get married at 19, and the only date I went on my freshman year was forced by my ward. Just don’t stress about it. You’re not a spinster at 19, I promise.
- Don’t feel pressured to go on a mission. I could write a whole book on this subject. If God wants you to go on a mission, do it. If He doesn’t, don’t. No shame either way. You do you and don’t judge people for doing them. P.S. You don't get a free pass to judge every guy that has not or will not go on a mission just because they are male.
- Take advantage of being close to the temple. My secret is that I like to go during devotionals, because all of the good Mormons are listening to general authorities and BYU professors relate random things to the gospel and there’s a really small amount of people there. Once again, I am reluctant to share this secret, but that’s kind of the point of this post. Also, how cool is it that we are the only city in the world that has two temples in it now?
- Don’t declare your major…I mean obviously you will have to do this eventually, but the only time I declared my major was a year ago when I decided on family life and I am sticking with it. That doesn’t mean that I didn’t plan on doing art history, communications, international relations, humanities, and el ed. Find classes that count for GEs and give you a good look into the major. I love politics but when I sat in my comparative government class, there was nothing that I wanted more than to crawl back into bed. The right major will feel right, and I have no regrets changing my mind multiple times without declaring.
- TAKE FAMILY LIFE CLASSES. Seriously. I know I am biased because this is my major, but these are arguably the most practical and influential classes on campus. My personal recommendations would be SFL 260: Family Finance and SFL 223: Preparation for Marriage (coincidently I took these classes from Jeff Hill and Tammy Hill, who happen to be married and also the best people to ever exist probably). Basically, what I’m saying, is these classes are the best on campus because you will use this information for the rest of your life. Plus, not to brag or anything, but I’m pretty sure we are the only college on campus with an apostolic blessing. Take that, STEM!
- It’s okay to date someone for longer than two months and not be engaged. You will still get asked when you’re getting married, but that’s none of their stinkin’ business so it ain’t no big thang chicken wang.
- You are allowed to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex!!!! It is okay to be friends with someone and to never have any romantic interest in them!!!!
- You are paying tuition, and coincidentally there are some awesome resources on campus i.e. the student gym and the counseling and psychology center that are free for full time students. Take care of yourself! Take advantage of these things!
- Be a resident assistant. Once again, I know I’m biased, but I honestly had the worst freshman year and made absolutely no friends (other than my roommates who are all still my besties, s/o to y’all love you). I got offered a position as an RA my sophomore year and it has changed me completely. If you aren’t really into that sort of thing, at least build a good relationship with your RA. They do a lot more work than you realize and they have a lot on their plate, and if they’re anything like me, they’re doing this job to force you into friendship. Kidding. Mostly.
- Call your Mom.
- Call your Dad.
- Call your siblings.
- Call your dogs (you’re probably confused but pretty much every time I’m on the phone with my mom I talk to my dogs and they get all excited and confused and it’s amazing).
- Join clubs! Volunteer! This has probably been drilled into your head over and over again, but find people who have similar interests to yours and stick with them. They’ll make the college experience a h*ck of a lot easier.
- Don’t NCMO – and probably don’t tinder (this is on a case-by-case basis because other people on tinder are mostly looking for NCMOs but not always). There are just so many gross germs, and if you make out with some rando, they probably won’t want to date you later on anyways. Why would you even want that? You're a rockstar, and you deserve someone you can make out with and cry to. Win-win.
- RENT PUPPIES. Unless you’re morally against that, then go to the puppy barn or an animal shelter or something. Or befriend someone with a dog. Seriously. My bet is that you are underestimating how much you need physical touch and how amazingly soft puppies are.
I am still learning things each semester about BYU, so this list may be updated in a few months. Either way, I hope this helps in some way. Stay golden, friends.
P.S. If you hate peanut butter, don't eat it just because a cute boy makes you a peanut butter sandwich. He will probably end up being a nincompoop anyways.