You Don't Have to Be Afraid to Ask Me About My Dead Sister8:19:00 AM
Hi. I know that death is uncomfortable and you never know how to treat people dealing with grief, but you can ask me about my dead sister.
I can think of two very special people that have come into my life in the past six months, and both were very genuine from the beginning about their desire to learn more about my experience losing a sibling. I don't want you to dance around the topic of my family. Obviously they are a big part of my life and obviously my sister's passing has impacted me immensely.
I like talking about her, honestly. Not in a "give me pity after listening to my sad tale" sorta way, but I like talking about how good of a musician she was. I like talking about her annoying laugh, her love for Star Wars and the USWNT, and how we fought over the Spice Girls movie DVD and my Dad had to break it all biblical-Solomon style.
I'm not saying that everyone who has lost someone wants to be asked about it.
But I want to talk about the happy things. I want to talk about the good memories and the regrets and how much I wish I could hug her (even though she would have absolutely hated that) and how you better never-ever take your sister for granted.
Julian may have only been physically in my life for 20 years, but she will always be a part of me. She is my family and always will be. She was a friend and an enemy and a confidant and a partner-in-crime and a nuisance and a companion.
I don't want to forget anything about her, so honestly, I want you to ask me about my sister.