Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 18

November 07, 2017

At the ripe old age of 22, I am basically an expert at life (not). That being said, I do remember my late-teens with slight regret and a lot of awkward fondness. Here's what I wish I knew when I was in that stage of life full of confusion and self-doubt.
  • I wholeheartedly believe that people can change. I'm not saying that all people want to enough, or that all people will, but all people can. Whatever it is about yourself that you feel is holding you back, you can and will get better. Whether it is your mental health, your grades, or your weight: let me personally say that I believe in you. It may take time, but we were "not put us on earth to fail but to succeed gloriously" (Richard G. Scott).
  • It's okay to ask boys on dates. I know, I know, a girl likes to be swept off of her feet every now and then, but in my experience, boys are usually too thick to realize how stinkin' cute you are most of the time. Sure, you may end up scaring some off with your forwardness, but do you really want to be with a man that is scared of a strong and confident woman? (I sure hope that the answer is no).
  • Don't drop all of your high school friends for your college friends. Alternatively, don't lose opportunities to meet new people because you're too invested in your hometown relationships.
  • You can have solely platonic relationships. Let's say it again for those in the back: You can have solely platonic relationships. Don't listen to what people say and don't convince yourself that you like someone just because they are the opposite sex and you are close.
  • Just because you're now an adult and stuff doesn't mean you have to stop wearing bright colors and graphic tees. If I'm online shopping, I 143% guarantee I am looking at graphic tees. And yeah, I want to buy everything cat-related in the little girls' clothing section. Who said adulthood has to be boring?
  • You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life.
  • The way that you speak to yourself matters. Do not tell yourself, "I can't do this" or "I'll never get better." You are your biggest critic, but you can also be your biggest cheerleader. Don't let yourself be the only thing holding you back.
  • One really good shirt can make you feel a lot better about yourself than a lot of mediocre ones. Don't spend all of your money on clothes that you aren't sure about (guilty).
  • Write down your memories. Seriously, I know it's annoying and your hand cramps, but just do it. I have the worst memory and I'm so glad I've been documenting things in my current relationship, mostly because I can go back and prove my boyfriend wrong on when something occurred, but also because I can prove him wrong on something that may or may not have happened. Just kidding, it's just nice to be able to look back and laugh at how he told me he loved me when I'm having a rough day.
  • Read my blog. Har har. But seriously, because I'm awkward and slightly funny so I can probably make you feel better about your life because I don't seem to be doing too poorly.
  • Love yourself with all that you have.
Yours truly,

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